Emotional Safety and Self-Trust

What is Emotional Safety?

Emotional Safety is all about trusting your gut, your instincts, listening to your inner voice. This is a felt sense of you are your own authority.

Living out of safety means you may be fixated on what’s wrong, constantly turning it over in your mind, staying in the “trying to figure it out” state. This can keep you paralyzed in making decisions, or emotionally guarded with a compulsive need to control people or situations. There's a sense that If you keep all the plates spinning, you'll be ok to make it through another day.

Or it may mean you're doing what’s expected rather than what’s true, for fear of letting "them" down, not wanting to disappoint others. You persistently put others needs' ahead of yours. You may not even have accepted it's ok to have needs, and therefore are unable to express them.

Another way of living out of safety is being emotionally fragile. You have a high sensitivity level which means your feelings get hurt easily. You may be hypersentive to triggers that cause you to over-react in certain situations.

If you experience a sense of feeling broken inside, you may have cut yourself off from receiving love, and therefore don't know how to give it.

Additionally, a chronic need to feel heard will keep you emotionally unsafe.

Listening to Your Inner Voice vs. Your Inner Critic

Your inner voice is the quiet wisdom that lives in your body, and for women this resides in their womb. This is the place that truth speaks, guides you toward what feels aligned, and knows what you genuinely need. It speaks in sensations, intuitive nudges, and gentle knowing. It doesn't shout or demand; it invites.

Your inner critic, on the other hand, is the loud mental narrative built from past wounds, fear, and conditioning. It speaks in absolutes: "You're not enough," "You always mess up," "You should be different." It disguises itself as protection but actually keeps you small, stuck in patterns of self-doubt and perfectionism.

The Choice

Choosing to listen to your inner voice is an act of radical self-trust. It means:

• Pausing to feel into your body rather than immediately believing your thoughts

• Distinguishing between fear-based stories and genuine intuitive guidance

• Recognizing that the critic's voice is often someone else's, a parent, society, or past trauma speaking through you

• Understanding that your inner voice doesn't criticize; it compassionately guides

The Practice

This isn't about silencing the critic; it's about changing your relationship with it. When you hear harsh self-judgment, you can acknowledge it ("I hear you, critic") without letting it dictate your choices. Then drop into your body: What does your inner wisdom say? What feels true beneath the noise?

Over time, as you consistently choose your inner voice, the critic's volume naturally diminishes. You build a new foundation of self-trust where your authentic guidance becomes louder than the fear.